{"id":640,"date":"2017-08-24T00:48:44","date_gmt":"2017-08-23T21:48:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.recallhealing.co.il\/?p=640"},"modified":"2017-09-10T18:06:30","modified_gmt":"2017-09-10T15:06:30","slug":"%d7%97%d7%95%d7%a1%d7%a8-%d7%a2%d7%a8%d7%9a-%d7%a2%d7%a6%d7%9e%d7%99-self-devaluation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/recallhealing.tempurl.co.il\/en\/self-devaluation\/","title":{"rendered":"Lack of self-worth - Self devaluation"},"content":{"rendered":"

lack of self-worth; affects us in almost all areas of life: relationships,\u00a0<\/span>Career, personal fulfillment, in the general life experience and especially in health.<\/h3>\n

Sources of self-worthlessness<\/strong><\/u><\/p>\n

According to the recall healing method, when we look for the cause of a certain problem
\nWe will look in three main places:
\n1. In human life - in certain cycles, certain dates, traumas, etc.
\n2. The goal project - 9 months before conception, the pregnancy period and up to one year of age.
\n3. Genetic lineage - parents and grandparents three previous generations, with reference to birth numbers and similar names.<\/p>\n

From a practical point of view, the most common cause of low self-worth is an unwanted pregnancy.\u00a0<\/strong>
\nWhat is meant by unwanted pregnancy?
\nFirst, we will examine whether both parents wanted the pregnancy, whether the pregnancy was planned, how each of them reacted to the news,
\nHow did the extended family react? and more.
\n\u2026\u2026\u2026even a few days of "deliberation" can be assimilated in a child born as a feeling that I am not wanted for the rest of his life.
\nOf course there is no intention to judge the parents, we are all human, but to understand the source of the patient's problem and change.
\nIn many cases, a lack of self-worth that interferes with the life of an older person can stem from events that seem to him to be meaningless today.<\/p>\n

Some common examples:<\/strong>
\n1.\u00a0The parents, or the extended family wanted a son and got a daughter<\/strong>. It can create a girl who is a "Tom Boy" and of course a lack of self worth,
\nI'm not good enough for them. (In many cases the woman will suffer from a cold)<\/p>\n

2.\u00a0It takes a father several days\/several weeks to accept the pregnancy.<\/strong>\u00a0This is typical for men who are not as physically connected to pregnancy as a woman.
\nAnd usually they did not "dream of children" like the woman. The man will try to please the father without a sense of success, he will feel that his father does not accept him,
\nTendency to perfectionism and more.<\/p>\n

3.\u00a0The father and mother argue and argue during pregnancy.<\/strong>\u00a0The fetus takes their feelings as if they were his own, "I'm not loved"
\nSometimes the child will take it upon himself to friend the parents. Possible diseases: fibromyalgia, bedwetting and more.<\/p>\n

4.\u00a0The father goes to the reserves\/to work -<\/strong>\u00a0If the woman experiences it as if he prefers to do something
\nOther than being with her, (she has a lot of time to think) she will feel worthless and it will pass to the fetus.
\nThe lack of worth in the person can be expressed by staying connected to the mother, being insecure in his relationship and more.<\/p>\n

5.\u00a0A woman who, although the pregnancy was desired -<\/strong>\u00a0He arrived at a bad time (studies, work, etc.). In such cases a person is seen
\nwho invests himself in studies or work, or exactly the opposite: fails to study or work - to dull the feeling
\n- that he is not wanted by his mother.<\/p>\n

6.\u00a0Any experience of worthlessness that one of the parents experienced:<\/strong>
\nMy boss doesn't appreciate me, I can't make money, I'm not loved, I'm not pretty\/thin enough or any low body image
\nwill pass to the child as if they were his own.<\/p>\n

Each of these conflicts can be expressed emotionally and mentally as well as physically.
\nFor example: the father wants to resign from the job where he is not treated with respect, but cannot because there are financial difficulties.
\nHe just had a child and he has to support his family.
\nThe conflict of "I suffer and want to get out" connects with the feeling of the father's worthlessness.
\nThe person born can carry the father's conflict in the subconscious, which will erupt with a certain trigger.
\nFor example, at the same age as his father when he was born and when he is in a similar situation where he is suffering and unable to break free,
\nWill develop shoulder problems, the meaning of which is: I want to get out of this place, but I can't.<\/span><\/p>\n

Lack of value in the genetic lineage<\/u><\/strong>
\nIn the genetic lineage, we find similar stories, sometimes more dramatic, because the small stories along the way are forgotten..
\nStories like:
\nI could not save my child from an illness.
\nI wanted to be a doctor but I had to raise my children.
\nInsulting treatment of women in the family.
\nMy sister sacrificed herself for me so that I would stay alive. (There are many similar stories from the Holocaust)<\/p>\n

Each such story will pass in the family memory and will usually be expressed in a person who bears the same name or the same number in the order of birth.<\/p>\n

worthlessness in human life<\/strong><\/u><\/p>\n

It is easier for a person who has not studied recall healing to understand this part.
\nAny experience that parents don't get in grades at school in comments for how you draw or do other things.
\nAll our comparisons to other children and especially to older brothers - who are naturally better than you.
\ncan manifest as a lack of value in our childhood and of course also in adult life.
\nWatching "beautiful, smart and successful" people on TV and comparing them to you,
\nFailure to achieve what you wanted accompanied by giving up on your goals (if you keep trying it's not failure)<\/p>\n

Inability to see reality:<\/strong>
\nA 50-year-old man trying to play sports like he was at 20 when he's out of shape.
\ncan be expressed in a lack of value that will be expressed in damage to the joints or muscles that are relevant to this action.
\nFor example: I can't run as well as I want, can be manifested by inflammation of the twin muscle or Achilles tendon.
\nI can't play tennis the way I want to, manifested by inflammation in my elbow "tennis elbow".<\/span><\/p>\n

Often, the source of the problem can stem from the genetic lineage from the target project and the human instincts in particular
\nAnd understanding the source of the problem with work on the worthlessness will cure or help cure the disease, or the emotional and mental pattern.<\/p>\n

It is recommended to watch Dr. Renault's video that also talks about solutions to the lack of value:<\/p>\n